Dec 15 2008
As a woman
So, something interesting came up today….and it’s just for the girls. From a woman’s point of view, and I do want feed back here.
I know this couple, have been married fo 18 years. Both very successful….tooks turns putting each other through school, have a couple of great kids. One day he comes home and says something to the effect of “I want out.” Of the marriage? Of their life together? All of the above. Not because he hates her, but because….there is someone else. Had he physically been with this other woman before he told his wife he wanted out? They both say no- The wife, she is hurt…..and she feels betrayed more by him wanting out than a moment of weakness. I can understand.
Jump to another friend….in the same social circle. She knows them both, loves them both. She is not the other woman, but confided in me that she is attracted to him and would love to be with him.
Now usually, in a case of a marriage splitting up- I say “go with the girl code.” I’ve always been on the sideline of the team that says “If he’ll leave her for you, he’ll leave you for someone else.” But I have to point out- as my friend did to me- she is not who split the marriage up- and according the my guy friend and the other woman, there was no physical affection until after the wife knew it was over. This friend….she’s a good woman. She works hard and gives what she can to make others happy and well. She doesn’t have a man to love her, or one she loves. She and out guy friend get along well and seem to hit it off.
What do you think? Is she violating the girl code? In general, should she steer away from this guy on the simple principle that he was married to a friend of hers? I have an opinion, but not a judgement (I don’t believe in doing that). I want to know what everyone thinks.
So, tell me what you think…..as a woman.
