Beckies Spot

Alright folks, we’re back.

In the prior post, I briefly wrote on the top 10 alleged reasons that women cheat.  I stated that, according to the article, the first reason was that the relationship isn’t that serious.  In reading the list of reasons why, I started thinking….these all relate to the first one.  So, tonight, I am beginning to go through that list.  We’ll start with the next on the list….”They are bored in their relationship.”

I will be the first to admit that every now and again, there is a need to spice up a relationship.  A need to do something out of the norm.  To feel special, wonderful, revived.  But if you are truly bored in a relationship, there is a problem.  My personal opinion is that if you are bored in a relationship, it is due to the fact that there is lacking in communication.  You are not a mind reader and you do not know what he wants/needs every second of every day, do you?  If you do, stop reading here.My point there was that if you don’t know everything he needs/wants all the time, then howis he supposed to know the same about you?  I mean, really.  If you are lacking to the point of being bored, then it is most likely because you are lacking in communication.  You do not have to stand at the foot of your bed and hold a sign that says “Would like to get laid” in order to communicate the fact that you feel unattended.  Try initiating….if it doesn’t work, try again.  If you are still not getting anywhere, maybe it’s time to ask.  It is possible that he is tired, that he is distracted- you have to really dig sometimes.  This doesn’t just apply to the bedroom.  Maybe you and your guy don’t get to go out together very often.  You have to find a way to let him know you are interested.  Try saying something like “You know, we haven’t been out in awhile.  Let’s do something.” (Note: Have an idea of what you’d like to go and do- if you don’t, he won’t really think you want to do something.  But, while you have an idea, be willing to be flexible on this.)  Without communicating, you won’t know what the problem is.  Maybe it’s a money factor.  Times are tight for everyone,we all understand.  So do something really inexpensive.  Go get coffees to go and go for a ride.  Take the dog for a walk.  Whatever…..as long as you are doing something.

I really do believe that when all is said and done, if you are bored in your relationship, it’s because you are not that serious.  Quit rolling your eyes…..think about it.  If you are bored to the point that you cannot communicate this (or you do and it doesn’t work), then the relationship is not that serious.  If it were mutually serious, you would both have a desire to spend time together, spice things up every now and again, be together.  And be totally committed.

Your relationship just isn’t that serious.  Sorry.