Dec 19 2008
Too many suitcases?
So, I’ve started writing about the top ten reasons women cheat (according to an article I read online). I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.” I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.
Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges. According to it, women cheat because:
There is too much baggage.
Now according to the article that inspired this series of posts, the baggage is on the men’s end, and the woman isn’t prepared to deal with it. Well why not? Unless we are talking about some sort of baggage issue that makes the man be wishy-washy (back and forth about his current relationship), then it shouldn’t be an issue. I know a lot of women with a lot of baggage. We expect that our men are going to be able to deal with it. Because I don’t want to hurt any of my girls’ feelings, I’ll use my situation as an example. Prior to Brent and I beginning our romantic relationship, I had been married and divorced. Twice. One marriage was one was physical violence and emotional manipulation. The other marriage was one of verbal abuse. When Brent and I first got into the physical part of our relationship, I could not be naked with any lights in the room. Did it have anything to do with him? No. Did he suffer the consequences of another man’s actions? Yes. Was it fair? No. Did he run? No. He was determined to stick it out- tell me that he was serious about me and our relationship. Nearly three years later, add a few other issues and some physical scars from surgeries that I feel are ugly…..and I still have a hard time. I’m not a fan of lights….but he is not them (meaning either of my husbands), and I make a sacrifice for him. He makes one for me…..in the fact that he loves to look (don’t most men?), and with his loving to look, he doens’t always get what he wants. It’s called compromising and understanding.
If you are unable to get past baggage, from either end, then perhaps it’s is because you just aren’t that serious. About him, about your relationship, about yourself.
