Dec 21 2008
It’s about sex!
So, I’ve started writing about the top ten reasons women cheat (according to an article I read online). I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.” I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.
Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges. According to it, women cheat because:
It’s about sex (lack of satisfaction).
Well now….this one I know to be true. As a general statement, if people are not sexually satisifed, they will go elsewhere more often than not. It can be because they either A) want to be sure “they still got it” or B) simply because they feel like they have a right to be satisfied. I could beat a dead horse and talk about the fact that if there is no sexual satisfaction in a relationship, then there needs to be communication. It’s not hard- in the throws of passion- to say something to your guy like “It drives me wild when you <insert whatever you want him to do here>.” Really, in fact, more guys like dirty talk in bed than not. If you aren’t comfortable saying something out loud- put his hands where you want them. I’ll stop with the bit about communication though.
Women are insecure, and we feel like we have something to prove. If we can’t get our guy’s attention and affection, we think there is something wrong with us. Maybe we packed on a few pounds- and while he has said nothing about it to us, it’s eating us up inside. Perhaps we think that’s the reason….so women will go out and find someone who does want them. If we can get our guy into the bedroom, but we’re always singing “I cant get no satisfaction” while he’s always the one singing another tune….we begin to think of ourselves as a sperm bank by nature. Someone who gives and gives and gives…but never gets. So we’ll go somewhere that we can get some satisfaction.
Someone women will even do it just for the thrill. The thrill of a new ‘relationship.’ Even if it only goes as far as sex- no emotions involved….it’s a relationship of some sort. But I’ll tell you- if a woman strays because she’s not getting what she wants at home in the bedroom- she will have emotional attachment to the guy who gives it to her. Even the best laid plans cannot prevent this. I know this for a fact.
When it all comes down to it though, if you are willing to cheat on your man because of sexual issues- the relationship isn’t really that serious. If it was, you wouldn’t step out….I know, I know….the truth hurts. But if your relationship was that serious, it would be harder to actually cheat on your partner than to tell him. I know that as much as it would hurt him, I would be able to look Brent in the face and tell him if I cheated on him. Without thinking twice about it. The hard part would be actually cheating on him. Sure, telling him may cost me our relationship- but not telling him I cheated on him and him finding out some other way is, without a doubt, going to cost me the relationship. I know that for me, if I could actually cheat on him, then it’s already over.
Because our relationship just isn’t that serious.
