Dec 22 2008
Not romantic enough for ya?
So, I’ve started writing about the top ten reasons women cheat (according to an article I read online). I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.” I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.
Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges. According to it, women cheat because:
Thing are not as romantic as they once were.
I can’t speak for all women, but I know a lot of women who are true romantics. We love to romance and be romanced. I don’t want to confuse romance and sex here….read the last post if you are having trouble with getting what you want in the bedroom. Romance….as in an every day sort of romance. Yes, sexual acts and thing of that nature can be very romantic. But for the couple that has been together long enough that there are no longer rose petals on the bedspread and candle light each night of the week…..perhaps it’s time to start thinking about the little things that are romantic. Now, I went to dictionary.com and looked up the word romance….in which there was an overwhelming amount of definitions depending on what context you were looking for. The one in which I was looking for was “a spirit of sentiment, emotion or desire.” That about sums it up for me.
Now, if you are looking to rekindle the kind of romance with the rose petals, candles and misc items from your fridge, then I suggest you remind him of what a great time that was. “Baby, remember when we used to get all dressed up just to undress each other? Oh, the candles, the chocolates….the roses….Oh I loved that so much.” He’ll get it. But….if you are in the mind frame of thinking that there just isn’t any romance in your life…..you could be wrong. I find it romantic and wonderful when Brent does the little things for me. I live in WNY and it’s winter….we get a ton of snow. When I get up in the morning and my car is already cleared off…..that is romantic. Why? Because he thought of me and knew it would start my day off just a little bit better. when he comes home from work with a couple of hershey kisses and leaves them for me, that is romantic. When I am doing the dishes or folding the laundry, and he walks up behind me and kisses my shoulders, that is romantic. I don’t want him to spend a lot of money on me- a few moments of his time…dedicated just to me….that is more romantic than getting a big fat rhinestone ring. But that’s just me.
I want to stress here that if there are no little givings (like him doing something that let’s you know he was thinking of you, or you doing the same for him), and there isn’t any passion…..then perhaps it’s because at least one of you has given up….you aren’t fighting for it- it may be because your relationship just isn’t that serious.
