Beckies Spot

Now that Christmas is behind us by almost 24 hours, I’m going back to writing about why women cheat  (according to an article I read online).

I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.”  I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.

Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges.  According to it, women cheat because:

The relationship has gone physical in a bad way (as in abusive).

I have touched on this subject before and feel that I said most of what I needed to then.  But, to tie this all in together, let me say this:  Any kind of physical contact that is not safe, sane and consensual is wrong.  When a person physically hurts another person it is abuse.  If it is ongoing abuse…meaning it happens often, then perhaps the woman in the relationship is going to “stick it out.”  But like the article says “You can beat us to the ground and we will pick ourselves up because even though we love you and you hurt us in anyway, there is always another guy waiting to save that damsel in distress.”  We will find someone who will treat us like the princesses we are.  Perhaps the woman being knocked around will come back after straying….perhaps.  This is most likely because the abuse started with mental control, moved on to emotional and verbal abuse and then finally landed on the physical abuse turnpike.  Long before the man ever struck her phsyically, she was most likely brow-beaten into thinking she deserved whatever she got.

I have to say that if a woman strays because the relationship has gotten physical in a bad way, it is because the relationship isn’t that serious.  If it was, the man would truly care for her and would not ever hit her.  I know this much- hind sight is truly 20-20.  Looking back, when I was smacked around, it was because he didn’t care.  He wanted to hurt me for whatever reason.  If he had been serious about me, us, our relationship…..he never would have done it.