Beckies Spot

So, I’ve started writing about the top ten reasons women cheat (according to an article I read online).  I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.”  I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.

Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges.  According to it, women cheat because:

She’s not first in your life.

Well isn’t that interesting.  A woman who wants to be first in your life?  Nah.  That’s never happened before, right?  Maybe, just maybe…..that’s why she stepped out.  I realize that the concept of a woman stepping out because you don’t put her first is a hard one to grasp, but men….I have to tell you that this is true.  Really think about it, and make a list of all the components in your life.  Put them in a list, with the most important component in the spot next to number one.  Be honest, no one is seeing this list except for you.  If you put your woman in the number one spot, do an honesty check and really consider if it’s true.  If there is someone that you are going to spend the rest of your life with, they should be at the top of your list (following God of course).  This does not mean that if your buddies call and want to go out that you tell them no because she is home and will get mad.  Well, you should do that if the two of you already had plans.  But, you should consider how it makes her feel.  I love when guys use the argument “But I live with you.”  And?  Give me a good argument here.  Every rock solid relationship I know has both people working, it’s almost essential these days.  Do you work exactly the same days and hours?  I didn’t think so.  Just because you have the same address does not mean that you spend quality time together.  Consider that next time.

Who gets the first bite of dessert? Or the last?  This is like the age old story of the last piece of cake.  There are two people and once piece of cake…who gets it?  Well, you share it of course.  But give your significant other the first bite.  Even if you have been thinking about it all day……give it to them.  And when you get to the last bite, give that one to them too.  It will show them that you put them first.  It’s a silly little gesture….but try it.

Now, for the ladies reading this….I want to point out that you should not expect that every minute of every day is going to be spent with you.  Is it enough for you to simply be in the same room with them, or do you have to be sitting on their lap?  Think before you ask….because otherwise, you will run the risk of smothering him, and then I’d have to write the top 10 reasons why men cheat.

In all seriousness though,if you are not focused on one another and putting each other first, do you really have intentions of ’til death do we part?’  If you put each other first and always want whats best for the other one, what will make them happy, then it will show that you are serious….if not, then I think you know where I am going with this.

Someone once told me that if I am always focused on making him happy and he is always focused on making me happy then we will always both be happy.  What a concept.