Beckies Spot

So, I’ve started writing about the top ten reasons women cheat (according to an article I read online).  I feel that 9 of them relate and come down to one thing (the tenth one) which is “the relationship isn’t that serious.”  I’m going through them one at a time, and I encourage you to read the last couple of posts.

Today, we are discussing another reason that the article alleges.  According to it, women cheat because:

Whatever you can do, she can do better (as in cheating in retaliation).

This implies that if a woman is cheating, it is retaliation for her man stepping out.  I’d like to quote the article as saying “If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don’t think you are in the clear just because she forgave you, you better watch how she interacts with your brother, your cousins, your best friends, co- workers, and anyone with a penis.”  Interesting.  I have to say that I agree that women will cheat for this reason.  If you hurt us in a manner of cheating….we may say we forgive you….we may let you come back.  But, finding a girl who truly means it….that’s another story.  I know women who will go for the sack and get you where it really hurts.  By stepping out on us, you are making us believe that we are, in one way or another, insufficient.  Like if we had done something right you wouldn’t have had to step out.  Now, it doesn’t really matter if you say these things or not…..all you have to do is cheat, and we feel like you have just said these things to us.  We will get you back….and when you re least expecting it.

If a woman will cheat on her man in general, I truly think it all comes down to “it’s not that serious.”  But, if a woman is cheating because the man has cheated….it is over and has been since the word go.  It takes a lot to really forgive someone.  That means trusting them from the time of the forgiveness on.  It means really not questioning where they are going, what they are doing.  It also means not throwing it back in their face later.  That is the hardest of all.  And not likely to happen.

If you are cheating on him because he cheated on you when you cheated on him to get him back for cheating on you…..throw in the towel.  It’s just not that serious.